Seeing someone across the room and thinking they would make a good candidate for some Astroglide is a bit more palatable [than believing they are your soulmate].
–as commented by roctaviousmcghee over at Graceless In Love
The context of the gem of wisdom is that Graceless ponders if there truly are soulmates for each of us.
It was interesting to me the origin of this belief:
The idea of soulmates originally showed up as part of the theory of reincarnation.* In that line of thought, a soul is set about in this world to live out a number of lifetimes until a number of predetermined “Life lessons” have been learned. Once those souls have finished learning their lessons, they no longer return to earth as humans, but move onto a different “level” of existence as guardian angels or spirit guides
I like this “romantic” notion:
Some believe that soulmates are created when God takes a soul and splits it in two as it’s cast into human form. Each half goes about learning its lessons at its own pace, and sometimes the two halves cross paths during various lifetimes. They sense a powerful bond and long to complete each other because they are the same soul….Each half goes about learning its lessons at its own pace, and sometimes the two halves cross paths during various lifetimes. They sense a powerful bond and long to complete each other because they are the same soul.
I have felt an immediate connection — and contrary to roctaviousmcghee’s notion — it wasn’t necessarily romantic or sexual. Do you believe that you can meet somebody and immediately know that they are a soulmate? I do, and I have.
I truly belive that soulmates are not born, they are made.
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That’s not the most romantic idea (it even suggests that True Romance could be found even in arranged marriages), but I still believe it.
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I believe before you “make” your soulmate, though, you have to choose good “raw materials”, though. A best friend is a good place to start.
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That, an ironclad commitment, and a lot of luck will have you pleasantly surprised how the other person makes you catch your breath 20 years down the road.
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It probably ain’t for everyone, but it’s worked for me.
Humans need romance, much like they need religion. Something has to be bigger than us, right?
Absolutely. I believe that both gives us what we long for most: hope.
Romance is nice and has its place but it’s sure caused a lot of people to be disappointed and disillusioned.
Similar to what Slarti says, I think that as grow and mature, we learn how to love better and give more of ourselves. And we get better at recognizing the people who will love us better and give more of themselves.
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I think there’s more to it than that, but I could almost get myself into a page-long comment if I had time. ![]()