I am completely and utterly appalled by what I read over at Katie Allison Granju’s place this morning:
Denver mothers who are enrolled in high school are asking for a modest four weeks of approved maternity leave from classes, and all hell is breaking loose over their request. The topic has bloggers and pundits buzzing, with most folks nastily wagging their fingers at the idea that “teen mothers” should get a few weeks to rest their bodies and bond with their babies after giving birth. After all, the reasoning goes, if we “reward” teenage moms with four weeks of no homework, it will surely encourage more 16 year old girls to get knocked up.
Are they NUTS?
No, they are cruel. Evidently, they want to punish those girls much as they possibly can for their mistakes. God forbid you give them an “excused absence” for giving birth!
Katie wrote a powerful essay entitled “In Defense of the Pregnant Prom Queen” recently, and it ties in to this most recent story, as well. Read her entire post, as well as the essay here.
“Hey Brittney, let’s both get knocked up — we can get four weeks off of school!”
“Cool idea, Jennifer! Brandy, want to get pregnant and get four weeks off of school?”
“Rad idea! But wait — will our moms let us?”
“Sure! It was their idea! I mean, like, they saw ‘Juno” and everything.”
“AWESOME!”
“Dude, that chick Brittney is all over me, Dude.”
“yea, she’s lookin to get 4 weeks off from school, dude.
“4 weeks! Dude, thats like longer than Christmas break. Bitches.”
“maybe you can hit it on a snow day, Dude”
“Awesome, I’m totally texting that.”
Life is hard enough on teen mothers and penalizing them (I know when I was in high school more than 10 absences in a year meant being held back a grade) for the time they may have to take (whether they want to or not) isn’t doing anything to help them reach a point they can financially support a child.
And seriously, even the slowest student can figure out that 4 weeks off in exchange for a child for the next 18 years is a bad deal.
There was a time that a pregnancy meant instant removal from public school and a move to some sort of vocational program…That, sounds like punishment.
I’d rather see a new mom, particularly a teen mom, get settled into some sort of routine and then resume high school at a later date. Missing four continuous weeks of high school with some expectation that the work can be kept/made up doesn’t sound like a formula for mom’s success.
If they’re pregnant, I’d say they’ve already been penalized.
Thank Youuuu
Wait a minute here… I thought teen pregnancy was funny. Somebody’s got to make up their mind.
I guess for me the question (as others have alluded to) is whether a person can give birth, assume the role of a mother, miss four weeks of school and just go on with life. Why and how do you advocates of this blanket policy expect these teen and unwed mothers to “press on” and keep up with the studies and stay on track to graduate like any other person not comparably “hampered.”
You also have to wonder what these children are doing with their babies when they go back to school in four weeks. Chances are if they are teenagers, they can’t afford daycare. Even if grandma can take care of the baby, these girls need to be learning to care for their child. Too often the children of teen parents end up suffering. This problem has to be adressed in bigger terms than should the girls get four weeks off to recover from childbirth.